Yaya DaCosta-Alafia and her beautiful family. 

She named her child, Sankara, after President Thomas Sankara of Burkina-Faso

“We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller
We say to girls: “You can have ambition, but not too much
You should aim to be successful, but not too successful
Otherwise, you will threaten the man”
Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage
I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is most important
Now, marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support
But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same?
We raise girls to see each other as competitors
Not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing
But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are
Feminist: a person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes”

 Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (via perfectly-thug)

“WE TEACH BOYS TO BE AFRAID OF FEAR. We teach boys to be afraid of weakness, of vulnerability. But by far the worst thing we do to males, by making them feel that they have to be hard, is that we leave them with VERY FRAGILE EGOS. The more ‘hard man’ a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is.”

Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche  (via jasxjenai)